08/10/17

100 Days of Marriage

It’s been 100 days since Brian and I said “I do” in front of 65 of our nearest and dearest! 

During these 100 days, so much has happened! 

We took some time for a honeymoon, flowed back into our day-to-day routine (which involved me jumping right back on a plane and into my work schedule as soon as we landed from our honeymoon!), and have had some memorable moments in between (like enjoying golf together since I took lessons as a wedding gift for him!).

We lived together for almost 4 years before we got engaged, so I wasn’t sure how much would change once we were married. I was surprised to see just how much life DID change- for the better.

I feel closer and more connected to Brian now that he is my husband. There is a sense of safety and companionship that comes with marriage. A calm and reassuring notion that you will have a best friend standing by your side, supporting you and loving you unconditionally forever. I mean, that’s a BIG deal, and an amazing feeling. Brian always made me feel that way even before we were married, but there is something about securing that bond that takes the commitment to a deeper, more spiritual level that is hard to put into words. 

I wanted to try and capture words to describe our first days of marriage in some way that I would be able to keep up with and look back on anytime I needed a reminder of that wedded bliss (because we all know marriage can be hard work and it’s not always cupcakes and baby chicks!)

So I decided that each evening, starting with our wedding night, I would dedicate a few moments before bedtime to think about a word or phrase to summarize that day of marriage, my emotions around being married, or thoughts about my new husband. It would be something easy enough to stick with, portable for traveling, and simple to revisit any time I (or we!) needed to. 

Working on this journal has helped me reflect and count my blessings each and every day, and I have already continued it beyond the 100 day mark as a way to continue to document our first moments of being married. <3 

Did you journal during your first months of marriage? What is your best advice for newlyweds?