What’s holding you back?

Change is an important part of life.  

My 20th high school reunion just passed a few months ago and that milestone got me thinking about all of those messages high-schoolers write to each other in yearbooks: “Keep in touch!”, “Call me over the summer!” and the probably the most infamous jotting- “Never change!”

Never change? Really? Why was that always our go-to sentiment I wonder?

If you’re not changing, you’re not growing.

If you take a moment to examine your life and realize that you are living the exact same life you were living 20, 10, 5, or even 2 years ago, it might be time to reevaluate things.  

Maybe you’re still working at the same job you’ve had for the last 10 years and it makes you unhappy.

Maybe you are ready for a relationship but haven’t found the courage or confidence to jump in and start dating.

Maybe you are yearning for some freedom from something keeping you down and you’re looking for some inspiration or motivation to move on.

Maybe you’re still holding onto regret or mistakes of the past and cannot forgive or allow yourself (or others) some grace to move forward.

Whatever it is that is keeping you from evolving and growing, well, it’s time to think about some actions you might take to get rid of these anchors that are weighing you down. 

I just recently turned 38 and as I sit back and reflect on my life so far, I am thankful beyond words that I am not the same person I was at 18, 28, or heck, even 32 (the age I lost my mom). Each year of my life, through struggles, heartaches, negative mindsets, assumptions, self-doubt, mistakes, judgments, changes, and losses (some of which shook me to my core), I have learned valuable lessons that have shaped who I am today.

And I’m beyond grateful for those lessons, because I am finally, FINALLY comfortable with who I am.

I live my life fully and more authentically than I could have ever imagined because of those experiences. I can’t go back in time and alter my story. I can’t rewrite stories that are undesirable, embarrassing, or regretful. My story is my story. It’s my truth. It’s who I am. And I wouldn’t want to change it.

Because of my past, I am able to relax into my present and plan for a future that is built upon the lessons learned from my life thus far.

If your mindset takes you to a place where you believe that you (or people you know/have known) should be the same person their entire lives, or, that people should be “called out” or shamed for being better than they once were, then you might need to think about the reasons why you possess that fixed mindset about yourself and others, (maybe beginning by taking an intrinsic look at what exactly bothers you about others growing and changing), and start to dig deeply into what you can do to evolve into a better version of yourself each and every day. Because we all know that life is literally over in a flash, so why not start evolving into our best selves as soon as we can. 

Cheers to being better and living a more fulfilling life each and every day. <3 Steph 

Do you need support in making a life change, check out this post: How to change when change is hard.