Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies, especially when it comes to our physical abilities, self-image and goal reaching. We tell ourselves lies to justify our actions, or lack thereof.
Here are some tips on how to turn off that little negative voice in your head that’s lying to you, and start living your best life possible.
Lie #1 – I can’t do it.
Have you tried? Have you modified the activity that you want to do? Modification does not equal failure. Everyone starts off as a beginner. So think about what you’re saying “can’t” to, and find ways that will help transition those “I can’t” statements into “I did” statements. Before you say “I can’t”, think about ways you can adjust, change or extend the time you’ve given yourself to be able to do the activity you want to do.
Have you ever heard of scaffolding? It means to start off with a modified simple task, and then make it increasingly more difficult until you’ve mastered the skill. It’s a basic teaching method that can apply to almost anything in life!
Remember- you have to walk a mile before you run a marathon.
Lie #2 – I don’t like it.
What part don’t you like? Whether it’s a food, activity, or part of your life that you don’t like, you’ve got to dig into the reasons you’re saying this to begin with. Just uttering the words “I don’t like it” is not enough of a reason. It’s a lie we tell ourselves often, and sometimes it’s even an excuse.
Many people avoid a healthy diet because “they don’t like fruits and vegetables”. There are so many recipes out there that incorporate these healthy staples in a fun, interesting and delicious way that there’s bound to be something that piques your interest. You just have to try. Ignore that little judgmental voice in your head and give things a chance that you may not have liked before.
And if it’s something about yourself that you don’t like (I don’t like being single; I don’t like my thighs; I don’t like my job) then figure out why you feel negatively about these situations and create ways to improve them.
“I don’t like” is no longer an acceptable excuse!
Lie #3 – I won’t succeed.
The most common lie we tell ourselves is “I won’t”. It’s the beginning of the “I quit” mentality. When things get difficult, it’s easy to say “I won’t ever reach this goal”, giving you an easy out to stop reaching for it.
Think about what makes you say “I won’t”. Are you afraid of failure? Do you think you’ll get hurt? Are you embarrassed to even start because you think you’re not capable? Figure out what makes you say “I won’t”, and go from there.
Remember- your goals are YOURS. You can achieve them at your own pace, with your own modifications by scaffolding. When motivation wanes, think about ways to regain it. Talk about your goals with friends. Maybe they’ll join you. Celebrate small achievements. It’ll get you excited about doing more.
Know your limits and adjust the steps towards your goal with those limitations in mind.
Lie #4 – I’m not ____ enough.
I’m not good enough. I’m not strong enough. I’m not pretty enough. I’m not smart enough. I’m guilty of this lie. We all are.
Confidence is a difficult thing to find, and a lack of creates those barriers that block us from reaching our goals. Do these lies stem from fear?
What defines “enough” anyway?
When you stop comparing yourself to others, you’ll find that what works for you and what makes you happy IS enough. And if something isn’t working for you, or you aren’t happy, then work on ways to change those situations. Using the “I’m not” excuse will only get you so far, so stop lying to yourself.
Find ways to change “I’m not” into “I am”.
Lie #5 – I don’t have time.
I don’t have time to pack my lunch. I don’t have time to work out. I don’t have time to cook meals. I don’t have time for myself. There are 24 hours in a day, yet some people still tell themselves this lie. There’s always time. No one works 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
I know life can get busy (I work a full time job, run a household, and volunteer), but I always make time to fit healthy choices into my life.
Prepping healthy meals on weekends, swapping out a 30 minute TV show for a walk, buying healthy snacks to throw in my workbag to avoid the dangers of the vending machine, or joining a book club or yoga class for some much needed “me time”.
It can be done; it just takes some scheduling effort. We all have time; we just don’t all use it wisely.
Think about your daily routine, and find 15 minutes here and there to start incorporating healthy choices into your life.
What other lies are you telling yourself and how are you going to work to change those negatives into positives?
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